Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Meet some of my friends...

So after all of what has been going on I wanted to share with you about a couple friends who have been such a blessing to us.

First meet Misti. Misti has a son named Calvin, who happens to be about 9 days older than Ian! She is by far one of the sweetest ladies I know. Incredibly enough, she is always willing to have Ian over (and me too), even though she has Calvin and a part time job and is a wife! This is our friend that Ian has a crush on. Every time we get in the car he asks if we are going to "Teetee's". Isn't that cute? I love it. Although it is a little hard to explain to him that just because we are in the car it doesn't mean we are on our way to see Misti. ;) One thing that Misti has done to bless our life is that she offers to to help ALL the time. So when I need a babysitter for Ian during my doctor appointments, I always know I can count on her to be there for me. Most recently though I feel bad for asking her because I have not been able to return the favor. So I try to treat her to lunches and snacks as much as we can to make sure she knows she is appreciated. (I should mention that one of my love languages is gifts, so this is a way I can show her that we love her). One of the most recent things Misti did was pick up Ian and take him to the mall to walk with her and Calvin! This gave me some much needed time to try and rest and get a few things done around the house.

Second meet Linsdey and Kyle. We met them in our newly wed FLOCK at church the week after Ian was born. I am not sure why I remember this so well, but I do! So Lindsey's husband Kyle works one to two weeks on and one to two weeks off, so Lindsey is always willing to watch Ian when her husband is at work. More recently though, they both enjoy watching him. They are always willing to help us out, even at the last moment. We have been able to enjoy many a date nights and run many errands because they were so willing to help. This has been so great for Justin and I! Also, I should mention that one time I paid her for babysitting and she emailed me the next day to tell me she won't be accepting money from us anymore. How amazing is that? I can't wait till they have kids so we can return the favor for them! Until then we will try to find ways to let them know that we appreciate them. Here is the most recent report from when they kept Ian. I had emailed her to let her know that Ian was still asleep at 9:45 in the morning, so it was official that he would be coming over every night to get worn out! Here is what she said:

Haha awesome! I’m glad we could wear him out. We stayed outside most of the evening since it wasn’t too warm. We played chase so he was running in circles for about 20 minutes. Then we turned on some music and Kyle and I were two-stepping. Ian was laughing and got really shy when he saw us dancing together so I grabbed him and started two stepping with him- he was so embarrassed but was cracking up! It was super cute. He’s a fun & happy kid- you and Justin should be proud. Can’t wait to meet Owen so we can have fun with him too!

I wish I could list all of the people in our life that have babysat for free for us. The list could literally go on and on! What a blessing it has been to us. Also, the people who have offered to help me out during this pregnancy could make a pretty long list too. Thank you Lord for the people in our life. Help me to be to them as they are to me!

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

borderline, so why worry...

I had an ultra sound at my high risk doctor today. At first it seemed like everything was good, but then when the doctor came in (at first the ultra sound tech is in there doing things then the doctor comes in after and takes a look too) he said that the baby was on the small side growth wise. When I first heard this it didn't bother me much because Ian was always on the small side, I mean he was 5 lbs 14 oz at birth! But then I have thought about it since being at the office and this little guy has been measuring pretty much right on at every ultra sound, so now I may be a little bit more concerned about that. Anyways, because of his growth and something about low blood flow we are having to up our non stress tests to twice a week instead of once a week.

So at first I was thinking, ok not a big deal. Then the nurse came in and took my blood pressure and it was 140/84. Which they didn't seem too worried about, but compared to what my bp usually is that is high. I also know that my regular OBGYN wouldn't be too thrilled with this. But again, I wasn't going to worry myself needlessly.

We headed home and I went and picked up our son from our friends house (who I think Ian has a bit of a crush on by the way) and we watched Elmo for a little bit then laid down for a nap. Oh naps! I needed one bad because I had woken up around 3 and was awake till sometime after 4:30 this morning. I was sleeping really good when the phone rang. I waited to hear who was calling (yes our phone speaks to us and tells us who is calling). It was my doctor's office so I answered it. Ugh. Between the results from this mornings ultra sound and my last 24 hour urine test they are calling me borderline pre eclamptic. So I have to go in today for a non stress test and get a shot to help Owen's lungs develop just in case we have to deliver earlier than we had planned.

I have such a great husband that even though our friend Misti said she could watch Ian this afternoon when I go in, he came home so I could rest some more. What a wonderful guy I have! In fact he even took Ian and is getting us something to eat for lunch as I type this blog post.

Well I guess that is about all for now. I know I said I am ready for Owen to be here, but not like this. I want HIM to be ready too! Plus, we really aren't ready when it comes to the house being ready and being packed and so on. But we know that we serve a great God who has all things in his hands and in his control. So why worry right?

Why Worry sketch from Church on the Move on Vimeo.

Monday, June 28, 2010

baby showers and so much more...

Justin and I are so blessed to have friends and family that care so much about us. We had two baby showers thrown for us! Can I just say that we are now set for diapers and wipes for awhile. I absolutely can not wait till Owen is here to wear them all. ;)

(Misti (or as Ian says Teetee), me and Ashleigh. Yummy chocolate fondue!)

(Paige, Haley, me, Heather and Patty)

As the day draws closer I am just that more excited to be able to hold him. A family in our FLOCK (aka Sunday School) just had a little boy about a month and a half ago. He was at my shower that our FLOCK threw us and he is just so cute. I really wanted to hog him and hold him the whole time and just let others open the gifts and show me what we got. But I resisted. In fact I didn't even hold him once! Hmm, now that I think of it that was kind of sad. Anyways, seeing him makes me want to hold my little guy all the more!

Our delivery has been scheduled for July 21st! I can't believe we have a date set. Today our doctor's office called to let me know the time had changed, which kind of scared me. Not sure why, but even a two hour delay pushes it back too much! And if they can push it back two hours why not two days. Now my mind is just going to the worst case. I am just really ready to not be pregnant anymore.

I know that many of you are thinking "just remember the blessing of what you get to hold in 23 days" (ok you may not be thinking the 23 days part, but I just added that in case you needed to know the official count down). I can assure you that I have not forgotten the blessing that has been given to me. I in no way want to offend those who have not been down this road yet, but I am miserably uncomfortable. Sleeping till 5am with out having to get up has become a huge accomplishment to me. In fact this morning was really good because I slept till 6 with out having to get up! I have sharp pain every time I roll over during the night. I can't sit up in church with out my butt falling asleep and feeling the need to stretch out. And I won't even go into the heartburn that I get at night.

So there you have it. As you can see I am ready to meet our little Owen. I am ready to get into our new way of living. I am ready to be tired because I am waking up with a little one crying rather than to go to the bathroom or because of discomfort. Your prayers over the next few weeks would be much appreciated, because I am also VERY emotional. It is not a big surprise if I cry at least once a day if not more.

On a positive note, my boys are the cutest boys around! I have probably mentioned Ian's "hat" (aka his Easter basket) that he likes to put on his head. Well he also likes to put it on daddy's head! Justin is so cute too, he just wears it like there is nothing out of the ordinary with having an Easter basket on his head. Also, Justin has a noise for the parts of his face. So when Ian touches his nose it honks, when he wiggles his ear it makes another noise and so on. I love watching them together! He has far exceeded my expectations of him as a father. He is so loving and playful. It is just entertaining to watch them together! He also took Ian on a walk on Saturday, with out the stroller. So Ian was actually walking. I know Ian must have loved it. I just wish I could have been with them. Darn, I am turning a good story back to my pain and misery. I better stop writing then. Here is a cute picture of my boys together.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

A dad song, finally...

Oh my goodness this is so great! Ever since we found the Mom Song by Go Fish Guys we have been looking for a good "dad" song. I think this is it! LOVE it! (I can't figure out how to get it to where you can see the full screen. So if you want to watch it on YouTube the go to

Monday, June 21, 2010

yep, another post...

I usually don't do two posts this in the same day, but I couldn't not post this next video.

I thankfully haven't had to go through the loss of a child. I do, however, have many friends who have experienced this feeling. For those of you who have not heard about the story with Steven Curtis Chapman and his wife, Mary Beth, you can read about it here. It happened in May of 2008. I remember feeling so very sad because at the time I was pregnant with Ian, my friend Lucy had just lost her daughter a month before this. I just don't know if I would have been the strong person that all of my friends have been when they lost their child. It makes me sad just remembering their stories.

All of this to say, I am guessing that the Chapman's wrote this song after the death of there 5 year old daughter. In any case it is a song that is so encouraging that I just had to share it with you all.

I have to say that I am blessed beyond measure. I struggle with depression, but it is songs like this that remind me that Our God is in Control! Praise God for that my friends!

signs to words...

Ian is doing so well with his talking! He does really well with sign language, but is slowly (or fastly, is that a word?) speaking them too! I am so proud of him. Here is a short video of him saying a few things.

Friday, June 18, 2010

Listening to God...

So I am lying in bed at about 5:30 this morning eating chocolate donettes and drinking diet Dr. Pepper and my mind starts to sing a Veggie Tales song. (what this isn't what you were doing at 5:30 this morning? I thought this was a normal thing for everyone. Hmm, I guess it could be because I am pregnant and wake up hungry and with headaches, but no that couldn't be it. Maybe you are the weird one for not doing this, did you ever think about that?)

Yes, I said Veggie Tales song. You see the only bad thing about Veggie Tales videos is that they aren't long enough, so we end up watching the same one over and over and over through out the day. I know, I could get up off the couch every 30 minutes and change it to a new one, but really lets just get realistic. Ok, so the song I started to think of this morning was "keep walking, cause you won't knock down our wall" It is from the story about Joshua and the wall of Jericho.

It came to me this morning, what if Joshua would have listened to the taunters? The people who were probably making fun of him for thinking that walking around the wall all those times would cause it to fall. How many lives would have changed if he started to walk and then decide that he heard God wrong and turn around and head back to camp?

Have you ever done that? Felt like God was telling you to do something, but then when you got close to doing it you got scared and decided that it wasn't what God wanted? Or some how justify not doing it? I can tell you that I have done this on several different occasions. I also walk away and ask God to forgive me, like even though I decided it wasn't what I was supposed to do, I want to cover my butt in case it was what I was supposed to do.

Is there something that God is calling you to do, but you keep putting it off? If so, lets stop putting it off and get it done! I say "lets" because there is something God has been telling me to do and I haven't listened to him, so I am right there with you.

Ok, so since this has been a long post I will reward you with a picture of the cutest chocolate covered boy in the world!

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

hard day...

I am having a hard day today. I have been at the point for a long time in this pregnancy where I am not comfortable. I feel like it has gotten worse over the last few days.

Now I know I am blessed to be able to be pregnant and I know that I don't want the baby to come yet.


I do want to not be uncomfortable, I want to stop waking up with headaches, I want to not be upset when I don't get a nap in, I want to hold my sweet boy in my arms, go on walks even if it is hot, I want to start loosing weight again, I want to eat something and not get heartburn. I want to see my friend preform in a musical for once. I want to feel like a human being again. I am sick of crying, sick of being that wife who feels horrible because she can't be the wife she wants to be.

I know that having Owen won't change all of these situations. I am emotional by nature and I know that I will probably still cry all the time. I know that I will probably not get much sleep for a while after he is born. I know my friends musical will be over by the time I can go outside again. I know that I have heartburn even when I am not pregnant.


I just needed to vent a little about how I feel, that is all.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

How it all began...

First off I want to thank Brinlee's Mom for the super encouraging comment. I am still humbled by the fact that anyone other than my husband reads this blog! You all are right, this is a ministry, I am not with out ways to minister to others! Thank you so much for reminding me of that.

I thought I would talk a little about how I got started with this whole blogging thing. It all started when my friend Rebecca began a blog talking about her family's process of adoption. I found it fascinating that we could keep up with her story and that she was able to share such personal information with us. Because you see I like to share personal information with others, I just happen to be the emotional type that tends to cry. Also, I am not good with getting my words out. It takes me several takes before I publish a blog post!

At the time I was doing Weight Watchers. My weight loss journey was really beginning to take off. For a while I had just gotten by with the minimum amount (example: counting my points). I would loose weight here and there, but then would also gain here and there. Until one day I went to my current favorite doctor. She was the first doctor to actually tell me that if I didn't loose weight I would be pre diabetic and then diabetic before no time. I know it may sound silly that I had never thought of this before, but I hadn't. I had pretty much always been "healthy" in the sense that my cholesterol and things had been at good levels. Until this point. It turns out my cholesterol and my insulin levels were high. Not good news. So, with my husbands encouragement, I got to work!

I realized really quick that going to the meetings with Weight Watchers was essential. It was then that I figured out that sharing the ins and outs of my days and my feelings was very important. One night I went into the living room and asked my wonderful, computer genius husband to help me get started on a blog. I should mention that he has a blog too, just doesn't write on it as much as some people. ;)

So there you go. That is the beginning of my blogging experience. I can't believe that I have been doing this since August of 2007. You can read my very first ever blog post here.

Thanks for all of you that read this and to all that leave comments. I can't tell you how much it means to me that you are out there! If you have anything that I can pray for you about please let me know.

Friday, June 11, 2010

feeing of loss...

Today is Friday. I am so gad it is Friday! This week was destine to feel long. On Monday when my husband left for work, I almost told him not to worry because it was Friday. I am glad I didn't say that as I wouldn't want to have got his hopes up, even for a second, plus I would have sounded silly.

While I am happy to see the weekend here and excited to be able to spend time with my husband, I also feel a sense of loss today. You see I felt like I had found a way to minister to others every Friday morning when my friend Misti and I went to garage sales. I felt so glad to be able to be used by God, to be able to make a persons day by asking them if we could pray for them. I also felt like it brought me closer to God. I was feeling so open and excited to do whatever it was that God would lead me to do. Now, I just feel lost. I know that I need to stay out of the heat in order to help the baby inside of me stay inside of me.

Now I wonder, how am I to be used by God? I felt so strongly that He led me to the garage sales each week for a reason. But where will he lead me when I can't even go? This line made it sound like I can't go outside the house, which I can, I just can't be in the heat, and really in Oklahoma there isn't much you can do with out being in the heat.

I am sorry to be such a downer today. I just really miss my normal Friday morning ministry time.

Are you a stay at home mom? Do you have any ideas on how a pregnant mom can be used to help and minister to others?

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

All About Cha...

Tonight was girls night for our FLOCK at church (aka Sunday School). We went to this new place in town called All About Cha. I was a little worried at first that I wouldn't find something to get. But after looking at the menu (some one brought one to FLOCK) I decided it would be safe to go. I mean really if anything I could just sit and visit with the ladies and not get anything. When you are pregnant you can get away with things like that. :)

Well I was pleasantly surprised to find that they had some yummy deserts! I'm talking something you would see on a food network special. So after finally making my choice of which yummy desert to get (don't worry I didn't get the chocolate desert with whiskey inside, I will save that for after Owen is born) I had to decide on which drink to get. Oh the choices! You can see what I am talking about here.

It was a bit overwhelming but once I finally decided on the drink I went up and ordered. I was going to get a brownie ball (I am sure there name for it is way more sophisticated, but this way you get the idea of what it was) and a iced caramel macchiato. When I ordered I changed my mind and got a cheese cake ball (again not there name for it I am sure) and stuck with my drink order.

OH WOW! Talk about chocolate and caffeine overload! It was like the day of 9 Dr. Peppers all over again. Ok, not that bad. But for a few minutes I was talking a little faster than normal. I slowed down on how fast I was eating and drinking and I think that helped out. I am realizing that most of you don't know the story of my drinking 9 Dr. Peppers, but lets just say I am sure my office mate was ready to kill me by the end of the day! I am just hoping to be able to go to sleep tonight.

Here are some pictures of our fun adventure! I would highly recommend going if you are in the Edmond area. Perhaps not a place that I would go every week, but every now and then for a girls night is totally worth it!

Monday, June 7, 2010

catching up...

I feel like it has been forever since I posted anything, but I guess it was only a few days ago. Maybe it seems like a long time because I copy and pasted most of the last post! ;)

A lot has happened in the last few days and I will attempt to fill you in on it.

Last Monday (Memorial Day) I had a headache that wouldn't go away, we called the Labor and Delivery floor of the hospital I was planning on delivering at and they gave me some suggestions and then said if I still had it after an hour to go ahead and come in for monitoring. I should mention that the headache that doesn't go away is a sign of preeclampsia. So after a while it was still there and I was getting dizzy so Justin said we are going to the hospital. So we headed up there and were put on the monitors for a few hours. My blood pressure readings were high and kept going up, which was frustrating. I was having contractions (although I only felt one, they said I had 7 in an hour). They gave me some medicine to stop the contractions and some medicine for the headache and sent me home with instructions to follow up with my doctor.

This brings me to Tuesday! I still had the headache, which was frustrating in and of it self, but to top it off I didn't feel like I could drive myself to the doctor, so Justin had to take off work to drive me. Once there the doctor expressed her concern about the nurses at the hospital we had chosen and asked if we would be interested in changing where we deliver. So we said yes. She then had us go to the new hospital to be monitored for a while to make sure things were going better than the night before and to hopefully help with the headache.

It turns out I was dehydrated. So they put me on an IV to get me hydrated and they gave me medicine for the headache (different from the stuff I got the night before). This seemed to work and after a few hours we headed home.

All was good until Saturday afternoon. I guess I should mention that Saturday morning was busy for me. I had a baby shower to attend for a friend and then a birthday party for our friends daughter. At the shower I thought I might have felt a couple of contractions, but didn't think too much about it. I headed home to get Justin and Ian and we headed to the park. I made sure to bring a lot of water with me and drank it too. It was hot, but we were in the shade of a gazebo for most of the time.

This brings me to later that afternoon. About 3 o'clock I started having contractions. I decided to write them down so that I could track them in case they continued. After about 30 minutes of these extremely painful contractions I took some Tylenol. It took about 30 minutes before that set in and I was able to rest for a while. Since the contractions had stopped we decided not to call the doctor. However, about 8pm they started back and after having 5 we called the doctor. Thankfully my doctor was the one who called me back, and she said she wanted me to go be monitored at the hospital.

Ok, to make a long story even longer...Ian was in bed so we got him up and my parents met us at the hospital to take him to their house, since we weren't sure how long we would be there. We ended up being there for about 3 1/2 hours. They again gave me medicine to stop the contractions (even though they weren't picking any up on their monitor, I guess the belt has to be in the perfect spot). They also did an exam to make sure there were not any other signs of pre-term labor. That turned out good, nothing else showed that I was going into labor. So they sent me home and said that if I had more than 4 contractions in an hour that I needed to come up (since I am only 32 weeks).

Justin and I made the choice to keep me out of the heat as much as possible. Which sadly means no more garage sales on Fridays and no more park visits (unless Justin takes Ian, which he said he will). I hate that I will miss that stuff, but I really don't want to go through that pain again. It was horrible!

I am for sure ready for this pregnancy to be over. I want Owen to be healthy though, so we will just pray that things go fast. After all there is just about 6 1/2 weeks left! Woo Hoo!

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

How to be miserable in 20 steps...

I got this off of a friends facebook note and thought it was worth sharing. Not sure how you will take it, but I was reminded about suffering well.

1. Use "I" as often as possible.
2. Always be sensitive to slights.
3. Be jealous and envious.
4. Think only about yourself.
5. Talk only about yourself.
6. Trust no one.
7. Never forget criticism.
8. Always expect to be appreciated.
9. Be suspicious
10. Listen greedily to what others say about you.
11. Always look for faults in others.
12. Shirk your duties if you can.
13. Do as little as possible for others.
14. Never forget a service you may have rendered.
15. Sulk if people are not grateful for your favors.
16. Insist on consideration and respect.
17. Demand agreement with your own views on everything.
18. Always look for a good time.
19. Love yourself first.
20. Be selfish at all times.

I also got this from someone's facebook. It is a poem or quote from Mother Teresa and thought it was also worth sharing.

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
... If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.

"Do It Anyway"-this version is credited to Mother Teresa