Thursday, April 17, 2014
Monday, April 14, 2014
Lately I have been searching for my purpose outside of being a wife and mother. A better way to word that is that I have been searching a way to provide financially with out compromising my role as a wife and stay at home mom.
I'm excited to announce that I am now an independent consultant for Jamberry Nails! I want to share with you my story, so here it is:
So it all started back in November of 2013. I was meeting some friends of mine for dinner. At some point my friend Kendra told me about the Jamberry nails that she was wearing and that he daughter loves them too. She asked if I wanted a sample, of course I said yes! I'm all about free stuff. When she handed it to me I just looked at it and though "there is no way I will be able to do this with out help". She insisted it was easy enough to do while watching TV, but I didn't think it would be. So I put it in my purse and didn't think I would ever try it.
Fast forward to January. My friend Michelle asked if I would want to host a Jamberry nail party because she was going to be near by and would love to come by to throw one. I decided it might make a fun girls night so I went with it and started to plan one. It turned out that she wasn't going to be able to make it, so we just turned it into an online party. This was actually pretty fun. I was looking at the nail wraps pretty much everyday, trying to decide which ones I was going to get. I ended up being able to get several free sheets and half price items! It was awesome!
It was at that point that I started to wonder about selling Jamberry. I began to ask Michelle questions and she would answer. She has been very patient with me while I research things and pray and talk to Justin about it. Finally I asked her if she was having a party any time soon that I could sit in on and watch how she does it. I really didn't want to go into this only having done an online party. It just so happen that the same day I was going to be in Oklahoma City that she was hosting one! God worked that out so perfectly! I really enjoyed going to the party and new after that that I wanted to join the Jamberry family.
I have now signed up and have had my first in person party and am currently hosting an online party! I can't wait to see how God will use this as a ministry for him.
Now then, one thing I have really enjoyed about wearing the Jamberry nail wraps is that I feel like it has encouraged me to look nicer everyday. I am wearing make up more and fixing my hair. More importantly I am getting out of my jammies most days! :) As a stay at home mom it is really easy to just stay in those jammies all day. I think my husband appreciates that I put on regular clothes. Even if he doesn't realize it, I think he does. :)
I am so excited to be doing this. I feel happier and just all around excited about what is going to happen in the future! If you are interested in purchasing, hosting a party (in person or online) or even signing up to be a consultant, then you can view my website at www.calvarese.jamberrynails.net. You can do all of the above right from the comfort of your own home. If you have any questions for me you can even message me from there!
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
It hit me this week that I am getting older. I know, I know this is something I should have already known. I mean there isn't a way to actually get younger.
What opened my eyes to the fact that I'm getting older? It was all of the younger ladies in our Sunday school class talking about turning 30! I realized that the hubs and I are the older ones of our class. I think there is one other couple who is about the hubs age.
One of the girls in our class has a list of 30 things to do before turning 30. I thought it was such a neat idea to do this, that I decided to make one for myself! Of course seeing how I have been in my 30s for a while now I can't really do a 30 before 30 list, so mine is a 40 things to do before turning 40! I had a lot fun looking this up online. A lot of people have made similar lists. It was interesting to see the things people put on their list.
I have to say that the one thing that amazed me most is that more than once I saw "get divorced" on a list! I couldn't believe it. Who would plan to get divorced? It was sad in my opinion. I hope those people are able to take that off their list, not because they got the divorce, but because they decided to stay married.
Anyway, on to my list! I have put together 40 things I want to do before turning 40. Some of these will not be shown as they are more personal, but most of them will be out there for the world to see. I want to put this out here in order to help me stay accountable. I will go through and update the list as I complete things. I have 6 years to get these done. Ready, set, go...
- Lose 100 pounds
- Go on a trip with just Justin
- Go on a trip somewhere fun with just Justin and the kids
- Sew more
- Take some sort of class, like cake decorating, photography, or crafting class
- Have all of our boxes cleared out of the garage
- Run an entire 5K race
- Go camping in the back yard
- Do a cartwheel
- Go snorkeling
- Take a self defense class
- Take a girls trip to Las Vegas with my closest girl friends
- Get my passport
- Go to a Broadway musical in New York
- Go to an OSU football game
- Be in more pictures with Justin and the kids
- Write an article and submit it to a newspaper or magazine
- Have purple highlights in my hair
- Throw a birthday party for an underprivileged kid
- Sponsor a child through compassion international
- Go to a formal event with Justin
- Have a FRIENDS marathon weekend where I (and anyone else who wants to join me) watch all 10 seasons of FRIENDS in order. This may be more of a 2 weekend event
- Take the family to Disney World
- Re-do our wedding vows (after losing weight)
- Audition for a musical
- Make a family year book at least once
- Pay for a strangers meal
- Buy a bike and go on rides with my kids/family
- Host more get togethers
- Be able to wear a pair of boots that come to my knee
- Discover my inner Wonder Woman
- Wear makeup everyday for a month
- Buy fancy but comfy pajamas
- Serve others more than myself
- Do a Bible study and actually complete it
- Find a way to contribute to our families finances without compromising my role as a mom and wife
- Have another child, either biological or through adoption
- Climb an indoor rock climbing wall
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
Wow, I'm realizing that I have not kept up with my blog as much as I used to! I hope to get better at that because I really like to blog and write about what is going on, even if no one is reading it.
My family and I are in the process of becoming a foster family! This process has been interesting to say the least! There is a lot that goes into becoming a foster family. But I know that in the end it will all be worth it!
Along with the paper work that you have to fill out you have to do training. So last week the hubs and I went to about a day and a half of training. It was long, but informative. I really think that all parents should take it every now and then just to be reminded of the things that you can do to help your kids! I got some good ideas on parenting my own kids in addition to foster kids.
One of the things that we discussed was ways to incorporate your kids into your everyday activities (may have been worded differently). I don't remember if someone suggested this or if it just came to me when we were talking about it, but I decided to change things up with our dinner times! Instead of me just making dinner every night I would allow everyone, including the hubs, to pick a meal and I would teach them to make it!
Last night was our oldest's night to chose a meal and make it. He picked Goldfish Mac N' Cheese. I was so proud of him because he did so well! Usually he is reserved about the stirring and I am usually impatient with how slow he is. But I let him do it and he did really well. The only thing I helped him with was putting the pan of water on the stove top and then moving it to drain the noodles. He did the rest! He measured the milk and poured it himself and I showed him how to figure out how much butter he needed. He did really well!
I can't wait for the other boys nights! Tonight the hubs is going to learn how to make hot dogs and salad. Friday night our youngest will learn how to make pizza!
|Usually Ian wouldn't hold the pan with one hand, but last night he did! So proud!|
|Little chef had to taste it before serving it to others.|
|It got a thumbs up! Good job Ian!|
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
It was 6 years ago this month that I turned in my 2 week notice. I can't believe I have not worked outside of the home for that long! I never in my wildest dreams thought that I would get to be a stay at home mom. It is for sure a blessing that I get to experience so much with my kids.
However, it is also a struggle. I have had good times and bad times. There are days where I feel like I have done so much and yet when you look around the house it seems as if I haven't done anything at all.
Lately I have been struggling with finding my purpose as a stay at home mom. Now many of you may say this "your purpose is your kids" or "teaching your kids and taking care of your house is your purpose". Please, I beg of you that if a stay at home mom (SAHM) ever talks to you about not having a purpose DO NOT say those words to her. The truth is, taking care of our kids is every moms job, whether you work outside the home or not!
You see when I worked, I enjoyed it! I was good at it. I loved the people I worked with. It was really an ideal situation. Well until the company got purchased and things started falling apart. But all my favorite coworkers still work together, just at another company. I feel as though I am missing out. I use to have inside jokes with people. I brought home some money (not as much as the hubs, but still contributed). I felt like I had purpose when I worked outside the home. I got to help people with finding the right mask for their CPAP. I got to work with people on how they could pay their bills. I felt like a lot of what I did some how was a blessing to others. Whether it was to the patient or to my co-workers or my boss.
I have recently done a little re-search on this topic. It turns out I am not the only SAHM that has gone through this. Here are two blog posts that I felt were helpful.
Now then, I do not have the answer yet to finding my purpose as a stay at home mom. However I am working on it. I would love to hear your stories and also I will hopefully be sharing some other stories from some other SAHM friends.
I heard this song the other day by One Girl Nation. Just thought it was so great and encouraging, no matter what you are going through!
Wednesday, February 5, 2014
I am a spender. There I said it. I love to spend money. Not just on myself, in fact I probably enjoy spending it on others more. However, after Christmas I decided I would use the money I got as a gift and put it towards making our guest room look nice.
I have had so much fun doing this. I love finding bargains and cute things and even better cute things that are bargains!
I have since been looking for some cute night stands/end tables/side tables. What ever you want to call them. The thing is is that most stores and people who are re-selling them are really proud of them ;) Meaning, they are expensive. I just can't seem to bring myself to pay so much for tables in a room that I won't be in. So I decided to just wait till the right pair came along.
Well a few weeks ago, what I thought was the right pair, came along! I was so excited because they were cute and really priced pretty good compared to other ones on craigslist. The only problem was that I only had about 1/2 the amount of money for them. So at the dinner table, in front of the kids, I asked Justin if he would mind giving me some credit and that I would "pay it back" with my birthday money (my birthday is in February). He thought about it and said yes.
After I started thinking about it though, I decided that I shouldn't get the tables. Why? Well because what am I teaching my kids? If I took the "credit" then that is teaching them it is okay to go into debt. Now I know that this isn't quite the same as a credit card or anything, but it is still debt non the less. So I told Justin that I would just wait till I had the money. I also told the boys, who probably didn't care, that I was wrong to ask daddy to let me get the tables even if I didn't have the money.
Sometimes, being a good example to our kids is tough. It might mean costing us cute side tables or even worse! I'm glad I chose to not get the tables. I am trusting that God will provide the right tables for me when I have the money or when we put it in our budget to get them with our general fund.
What is something you have had to change or apologize for in order to be a good example to your kids?
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Recovery after the breast reduction was not at all what I had expected it to be. Now I am currently about 2 weeks post surgery, so I'm sure there will be even more stages added to the list. But for now, here is what I have been going through:
Stage 1 - I was so sick immediately after the surgery that all I could think about was feeling better. I didn't at all think about if the surgery was successful. I woke up really, really, REALLY hot. So much so that it was hard to breath. The nurses found a fan and plugged it in and had it pretty much right in front of me. Those poor nurses. They really put up with a lot from me. I apologized once I started feeling better. I'm pretty sure I was rude to them at some point during the post op recovery time. The nurses really were great. They were nice enough to be kind, but also forceful enough to make me do things that they knew would help me. Things like making me drink some sprite, eat some crackers and go to the bathroom. Once I had gone to the bathroom they put me in a wheel chair and took me out to the car. That is really all I needed to start feeling better. The cool air just washed over me and I felt so much better.
Stage 2- At this point I was still not concerned with the results of the surgery. We were home and I was hungry and in pain. Thankfully my husband took the advice of the nurses and had already dropped my prescriptions off at the pharmacy. So while I laid in bed at home, he drove to Walgreen's and McDonald's. I couldn't take the pain meds until I had eaten something. For some reason the only thing that sounded good was a cheeseburger from McDonald's. I know, so lame, but it was SO good. Especially after having not eaten all day, I felt like I was eating at a 5 star restaurant!
Stage 3 - Okay, so now the pain meds have set in and I have decided to actually look at myself. I was not sure what to think. I had a lot of gauze on and tape and weird alien horns below my breasts. To be fair to my doctor, they did tell me this is how I would look. I just didn't ask that many questions about it in order to get more details, so when I looked in the mirror I kind of was disappointed.
Stage 4 - Depression and randomly crying. This has been the hardest part of the recovery stages thus far. I was feeling ugly. I seriously looked like a half human half alien character from a sifi movie! This was not at all what I had signed up for. To add to these feelings I also just wanted to cry. There was not really a reason, I just needed to shed some tears. My poor husband put up with a lot of emotions during these few days. I sure don't know what I would have done with out him there! During this stage one of my best friends, Erin, found a website with others who had gone through or were about to go through breast reductions. This was the best medicine! I was able to see that others felt the same things I did. I was not alone in my depression and crying. This immediately helped me feel better. I was able to share with Justin the things I read and explain to him that I am not the only one who goes through this part of recovery!
Stage 5 - I think this is the stage I am currently in. I am pretty much pain free, I feel a little tightness in the breast area, but it isn't anything I feel like taking pain meds for. I am feeling really good about myself! I realized that I didn't have any clothes to wear to church, so I tried on an old dress that I haven't been able to fit into in a long time, and it fit! I loved that feeling. Then this past Sunday I did the same thing. I totally rocked a dress that I couldn't fit into before the surgery! Also, I went bridesmaid dress shopping with my friend who is getting married in April, and I was able to fit into strapless dresses!!! STRAPLESS. This has never been an option for me. I always have had to get the dresses with high backs and wide straps or sleeves, in order to cover my bra. So needless to say I was thrilled!
I hope that the stages continue to get better. I have about 2 1/2 months still before my "alien horns" are healed up and no longer showing. The doctor told me that the slower they go away the better the healing will be. So here is hoping for a slow healing process.
Oh and since my surgery I am way more aware of my middle section. I totally see my stomach more and feel more of a desire to work on loosing weight! My friend, Jessica, is going to help me along the way. She is about to be certified as a personal trainer. I'm so thankful for her and the fact that she is going to help me out. I will get to be one of her first testimonies for her new job as a personal trainer! Hoping to make her proud!
Here are some after pictures. The one in the white shirt is like a day after the surgery. They have settled a bit now and don't look quite as "at attention" (as one of my other friends put it). My favorite is the one of me in the bridesmaid dress! Again, did I mention it is strapless?!?!
|Picture on the left is the before picture. Picture on the right is the after picture. I was not happy in this picture. I think I must have been in Stage 4 ;)|
|This is the dress I ended up getting. It will be in an aqua color though. :)|
|I was being silly and my friend Erin snapped the picture at this moment :)|